For families who want a calmer home

Your home, finally
running as a team

Nestmate helps couples and families — including kids, au pairs, and grandparents — share the mental load without nagging, resentment, or yet another argument about the dishes. Especially built for ADHD and neurodivergent households.

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Our Home ♥
Sofia & John · Week 3
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Tasks done
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Streak
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Mental load
Today's tasks
Dishes after dinner
John
Wipe counters
John
Pick up groceries
Sofia
Take bins out
John
Book dentist appt
Sofia
Meal plan together
Shared
70%
Week complete
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Sun 5pm
Next check-in
Sound familiar?

The mental load is crushing one of you

And the other one doesn't even know it. This isn't a character flaw — it's a systems problem. Nestmate fixes the system.

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You ask. They forget.

You mentioned the bins three times. They nodded. The bins are still there. This isn't laziness — it's a brain that needs a different kind of system.

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The mental load is invisible.

You're tracking the groceries, the cleaning rota, the dentist appointment, the birthday gift. They don't see it. You can't stop seeing it.

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Every conversation turns into an argument.

You don't want to nag. They don't want to feel criticised. Without a system, someone carries it all — and that someone is always you.

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You've tried apps. They didn't stick.

Generic to-do apps don't understand families. They don't know about ADHD, executive function, or the difference between forgetting and not caring.

Everything you need

One cosy app. Zero nagging.

Nestmate turns your household into a team with the right tools — not pressure, not arguments. Clarity, warmth, and systems that actually hold.

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Your Home Environment

Name your home, add members, assign zones. Everyone sees who owns what — no confusion, no "I thought you were doing it."

Home setup
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12 Printable Templates

Weekly schedules, chore checklists, home agreements, monthly meetings — personalised with your names. Print or use digitally.

Templates
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Weekly Check-ins

Track your mental load, celebrate wins, and catch resentment before it builds. Your private space, your history.

Check-ins
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Real-time Task Tracking

Live task boards you all can see. Recurring tasks set on schedule. The app reminds them — not you.

Tasks
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ADHD / ASD Mode

Optimised task triggers, habit stacks, dopamine-friendly completion — tailored for how your partner's brain actually works.

Neurodivergent
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Communication Scripts

Ready-to-use phrases for every hard moment. Three parts: don't say / try this / when it went right.

Scripts
Inside the app

Everything your household needs, in one place

Tasks, calendar, notes, checklists — all connected. When John adds a dentist appointment, Sofia sees it instantly. When Sofia pins the grocery list, it's there for everyone.

April 2026 Shared calendar
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MON 7 Sunday Reset Both
WED 9 Dentist — Emma Sofia
FRI 11 Car service John

Shared calendar

One calendar, every person colour-coded. Appointments, school runs, recurring tasks — all visible at a glance. No more double-bookings or "I didn't know about that."

Notebook Live sync
📌 PINNED · SHARED
🛒 Weekly groceries
Milk · Eggs · Sourdough · Olive oil · Pasta
🔒 PRIVATE · YOU
Check-in notes for Sunday
I've been carrying more this week…
Checklist · Bathroom deep clean
Scrub toilet
Wipe mirrors
Mop floor
Replace towels

Notes & checklists

Shared notes everyone sees instantly. Private notes only you can read. Checklists with urgency labels — grocery runs, packing lists, deep cleans, anything you need to track together.

This month Budget tracker
€1,240
total spent · April
Sofia €580
John €660
🛒 Groceries €340 Shared
🏠 Rent utilities €680 John
🍽 Eating out €220 Sofia

Budget tracker

Log expenses with one tap. Assign to a person or split as shared. See who spent what, track recurring costs, and stop the end-of-month conversation about where it all went.

Built for families

The whole family, finally on the same page

Nestmate isn't just for couples. Add kids, grandparents, au pairs — everyone gets a role that matches what they can do. You see everything. They see what's theirs.

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Up to 5 members per household
Add your partner, kids, a parent who helps out — everyone gets their own account and sees the home through their own lens.
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Kid accounts — age-appropriate access
Kids see their own tasks and the shared calendar. No budget, no scripts, no adult content. They can tick off their chores, add notes, and feel part of the home — without the overwhelm.
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Parents see everything
As admin, you see every member's tasks, completion rates, upcoming events, and notes. One dashboard — the whole household — no chasing anyone for updates.
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Admin · tasks, notes, calendar, scripts, budget
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Member · tasks, notes, calendar, budget
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Emma age 10
Kid · own tasks, shared calendar, notes
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Grandma viewer
Viewer · calendar & shared notes only, read-only
Viewer
All roles are set by the admin · change anytime
The viewer role

Stay in the loop without getting in the way

Sometimes someone needs to see what's happening in the home without being part of running it. Grandparents who help with childcare, an au pair who needs to know the schedule, a co-parent in a shared custody arrangement. The Viewer role is designed exactly for this.

See the shared calendar

All household events, appointments, and school pick-ups — visible at a glance. No editing, just awareness.

Read shared notes

Any note marked "Everyone" is visible to Viewers. Great for leaving instructions, routines, or reminders for whoever is helping out that day.

Cannot edit, assign or delete

Viewers are read-only. They cannot create tasks, change events, access the budget, or see private check-ins. The household stays in control.

No access to scripts or check-ins

Communication scripts and personal check-ins are private to the household. A Viewer never sees them — not even the check-in history.

Role comparison
What each role can see and do
Admin
Member
Kid
Viewer
Tasks (own)
✓
✓
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Tasks (all members)
✓
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Shared calendar
✓
✓
✓
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Shared notes
✓
✓
✓
✓
Private notes
✓
✓
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Budget tracker
✓
✓
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Scripts library
✓
✓
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Check-ins
✓
✓
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✓ = full access  ·  — = no access  ·  All roles are assigned by the household admin and can be changed at any time.
Premium features

Built for how your household actually works

Every premium feature was designed around one question: what would make it genuinely easier for a neurodivergent family member to show up?

🔔Premium

Notification bell

A live bell in the header. When a task is overdue, your partner gets notified — by the app, not you.

🧠ADHD mode

ADHD focus mode

One task at a time, no overwhelm. Trigger, time box, dopamine completion animation. Done / Skip / Exit.

⚡ADHD mode

Habit stacks

Every task has an anchor: "After I make coffee → wipe the counter." Routines that actually stick.

📝Premium

Shared notes

Real-time notebook everyone sees instantly. Notes, grocery lists with Necessary/Urgent labels.

💰Premium

Budget tracker

Log expenses, assign per person, see who owes what. Monthly breakdown. No spreadsheet needed.

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Sunday reset timer

A shared 30-minute countdown. Everyone starts it together, takes their zones. Timer ends — done.

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Monthly report

Auto-generated on the 1st: tasks done, mental load trend, biggest win, one tip for next month.

💌All plans

Partner & family invite

Share a unique code. Partners, family, kids (3 per home) join with their name already set up.

All of this included in Full Partnership €14.99/month or €109/year · 7-day free trial
Communication scripts

Three parts for every hard moment

Each script has three sections: what not to say, what to try instead, and — crucially — what to say when they got it right. Positive reinforcement rewires behaviour more than correction.

✕Instead of — the phrase that makes it worse
Try this — warm, specific, ADHD-aware language
★When it went right — how to lock in the good behaviour
🔁 They forgot their task again
✗ Instead of
"Why do I always have to remind you? You never help."
✓ Try this
"Hey, the dishes didn't happen last night. Can we figure out what adjustment would help — maybe a reminder at 8pm?"
★ When it went right
"I noticed you remembered without me saying anything — that means a lot. The system is working."
How it works

Up and running in one evening

No complicated setup. Just warmth, clarity, and a system everyone will actually use.

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Name your home

Create your home environment, give it a name that feels like yours, and set up who lives there.

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Divide the zones

Assign zones and recurring tasks. Who owns what is clear from day one — no overlap, no guessing.

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Use the templates

Download your personalised templates. Stick the weekly schedule on the fridge.

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Check in weekly

A private moment to track how you're feeling and what to bring to your monthly review.

Templates included

Download your personalised templates.

Stick the weekly schedule on the fridge or use the app to track everything in real time. Every template is personalised with your home name, partner's name, and zones.

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Weekly Home Schedule
Full week layout with tasks per partner. Goes on the fridge.
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Partner's Daily Checklist
Daily + weekly checklist with their name. Print or use digitally.
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Home Partnership Agreement
Fill in together. Who owns what, how reminders work, commitments.
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Monthly Meeting Agenda
Structured 20-min check-in. Wins, improvements, one new thing.
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Zone Ownership Map
Visual map of who owns each zone. Print and post somewhere visible.
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ADHD Habit Stack Card
Pocket-sized habit list. Print, laminate, put where they'll see it.

or included in Full Partnership — €14.99/month

Try building one — free preview

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Choose a template

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Weekly schedule
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Zone map
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Daily checklist
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Habit tracker
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Partnership agreement
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Monthly agenda

Assign tasks

Three ways to use nestmate

Start free. Upgrade when you're ready.

One subscription covers the whole household. Partners, family, kids — nobody else pays.

Free app
€0
Always free · no card needed · no expiry
  • ✓ 1 home · 2 members
  • ✓ 5 active tasks
  • ✓ 3 communication scripts
  • ✓ 1 check-in saved per month
  • ✓ Basic notes & checklists
  • ✗ Personalised templates
  • ✗ Unlimited tasks
  • ✗ ADHD focus mode
  • ✗ Budget tracker
Get started free
Template pack
€14.99
One-time · yours forever · no subscription needed
  • ✓ All 12 templates personalised
  • ✓ Answer questions → HTML file
  • ✓ Download, share & print as PDF
  • ✓ Works offline forever
  • ✓ Re-download anytime
  • ✗ Live task board or check-ins
  • ✗ Real-time sync
  • ✗ Scripts library
  • ✗ Budget tracker
Everything included
Full partnership
€14.99/month
7-day free trial · cancel anytime · covers whole household
  • ✓ Everything in Template Pack
  • ✓ Unlimited tasks + recurring
  • ✓ Real-time sync for all members
  • ✓ ADHD focus mode + habit stacks
  • ✓ Full check-in history + charts
  • ✓ Budget tracker + expense split
  • ✓ Scripts library (3 parts each)
  • ✓ 2 homes · 3 members each
  • ✓ Refer a friend — both get 1 month free

Free plan stays free forever · Template Pack is one-time · Full Partnership covers your entire household

Get the app

Works like a native app — no App Store needed

Nestmate installs directly to your home screen in 3 taps. Full screen, works offline, instant access — just like a real app.

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iPhone / iPad

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Open nestmateapp.com in Safari
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Tap the Share button ⬆ at the bottom
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Tap "Add to Home Screen" → Add
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Android

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Open nestmateapp.com in Chrome
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Chrome will show an install banner — tap it
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Or tap ⋮ menu → "Add to Home Screen"
Create your home

Set up in 5 minutes. Feel it in a week.

Once the app is installed, creating your home takes one short conversation. You name the home, assign zones, pick a plan — and everything is ready for both of you from day one.

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Name your homeGive it a name that feels like yours. Add your partner or family members.
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Divide the zonesAssign kitchen, bathroom, bins, laundry — who owns what, clearly.
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Choose your planStart free, add templates, or unlock everything. You can change anytime.
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Invite your householdShare a link. They join, see everything set up with their name, and start.
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Create your home

Free to start. No credit card. Your whole household covered under one plan.

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5 minutes to set up. Most couples feel a difference in the first week — not because the app is magic, but because having a shared system finally makes the invisible visible.

Free forever · No credit card · One subscription covers your household

Real couples

It's not magic. It's just the right system.

★★★★★

"We'd been arguing about chores for three years. Two weeks with Nestmate and he cleans the bathroom every Saturday without a word from me. I honestly cried."

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Sofia, 29
Partner has ADHD · together 4 years
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"I didn't realise I was doing 80% of everything until I saw it tracked. The check-ins changed everything about how we communicate."

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Marta, 34
Partner on autism spectrum · married 6 years
★★★★★

"The ADHD section was me completely. Now I have a system that works for my brain and she's not exhausted anymore."

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Jamie, 31
Has ADHD · found it through their partner

Your home can feel like a team again

Set up in 5 minutes. See results in 1 week. Built with warmth for real relationships.

Create your home — it's free →
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